Wait Iavas it sounds like you want to work around those without the ability to control themselves. Which seems ass backwards to me. Expecting people to be respectful isn't asking too much.
Yeah but when they aren't what are we going to do? Keep erupting? When someone does something you don't like, do you HAVE to call them out on it or can you just ignore/duck around the issue? Is it so hard to ask for people to pick their battles?
I'm using "you" in the most general sense. This is a problem we face IRL, not just on the boards. If my youngest sister is capable of self-control, tolerance, and respect she's got one helluva way of showing it. My family has to pick battles with her. More often that not we just let her behavior slide. She's 19. We've ben trying to teach her manners since day one. The lesson has not taken. I have a co-worker who likes to goad people into insanity, especially if they've shown even a smidge of pride in what they've done. SHe's a bit competitive. I got a result recently that's going to be a major paper. Right now I'm doing experiments that require a set-up that, while it's not elaborate, is a bit different from what we're all used to seeing in the lab, so for some reason this makes me a target (probably because the boss is so excited about the data). I'd call her on it but it's not worth the peace in the lab. I'd spend more time hiding in the cold room but it's too damn cold. So I'm just doing my experiments and hoping that in a week or so I'll have enough data to stop and go back to something that everyone agrees is normal.
I'm sure most of us have encountered similar shit. So why not take the lessons learned IRL and bring them here?