I don't see what's inappropriate about Eru's involvement during this discussion Holby. It's her right as a poster to say what she feels and she has done so in a polite civil manner just as it was your right to call a hearing.
Clearly there are some who want a hearing and some who feel it's excessive. But we are actually having a nice discussion without all hell breaking loose which is a refreshing change from the days of old.
We are allowed to disagree that doesn't mean the hearing won't happen, in fact, it will happen. It's still a person's right to voice their disagreement.
The key is not to take things personally.
I agree and perhaps I am being overly sensitive and defensive.
I have to ask some questions though.
At what point has it gone beyond people voicing their opinions and become people trying to influence others and foist their philosophies on others?
Eru was all miffed because I said I didn't think it was appropriate to try and sway someone in this thread, and felt that someone going through this process needed a place to do so without outside influences.
All despite these very words from her;
They are disagreeing with calling a hearing in the first place. That's it. Some of us have been hoping this wouldn't happen...giving our input in hopes of the request being withdrawn. That's it.
Am I missing something or isn't that someone trying to influence?
I appreciate the opinions, and I have read them. I don't share that opinion. The pendulum has swung too far in the other direction and the nastiness that goes on around here needs to stop. How is continuing to express opinions productive at this point?
A simple "I feel you shouldn't do this because..." would suffice. To belabor the point is what breeds the resentment and causes drama.
The over tolerance and inaction around here is what breeds the nastiness. Sweeping things aside has got us where? Having no deterrents has got us where?
The attacks, the nastiness, and the derisive language is going to stop.
I am far away from being a sensitive individual. I am as crude, coarse and blunt as anyone. If I have had enough then the incidents around here have gone too far.
I keep coming back here to see people that I enjoy, and I keep seeing the same garbage over and over again. The inaction doesn't work. I am taking a different approach. I am not going to be swayed.