I thought we could because he used an ID not his own outside of the RP forum basically starting out from minute one going against our rules
That, and he did state that he read through ToE which is beyond against the rules even for a new member, let alone someone who isn't a member at all.
That, and... yeah, if my ex or Nins ex or Lilys ex signed up to the boards, I would expect any and all of them to be banned no questions asked. Abusive assholes are not welcome sort of thing. We talked about this at some point in the Charter discussions but I don't know what was ever done with it. However, if my ex or Lilys ex or Nins ex have just as much of a right to join the boards as anyone else, then I don't want to be here anymore.
If he does end up joining and we let him, I will suggest that whoever is on here first moves Sids thread that I've moved to the Members Lounge into TOE or some such. We can pretty much assume that she didn't want him to see that thread or any of the thread where she spoke about him, and she has the right to have it hidden from him.
I, however, must
strongly protest against anyone at all having a right to join the board when we know for a fact that the only reason they would be joining the board is for spying purposes and an intention to find out information that they can use against another person. If we know for a fact that in RL the person is very much not good, and that allowing them on the boards will disrupt the life of one or more people on the board in a strongly negative manner, then I do believe that the rights of a current and longstanding member of the board does take precedence.
Course, I also believe that the only people on this board that would agree with me about that are people with abusive asshole partners or ex-partners. Whatever - I can't be involved if he is allowed on the boards. I think we'll lose a minimum of three members if he is, but hey, the right to join is more important than the privacy of current members, even if the whole point of that person joining is to invade the privacy of the current member.
I seriously can't talk about this without becoming completely upset. I'm sorry, but it's just not that simple.