My first experience wasn't that special at all. It was, in fact, a spectacular failure. I didn't get hurt (
thanks bike riding ) but my boyfriend did, lol
and it only lasted all of two minutes in which neither of us got any satisfaction. Oh, and it was my idea. On the other hand, my boyfriend at the time was a really great guy, and even if the experience itself wasn't amazing, I can't think of another way or another person that I would've wanted to have the experience with.
As for the value people place on virginity - my boyfriend a few years later (the asshole jerk one) couldn't stand the fact that he wasn't my first... or my second. The fact that he was my fifth bugged the hell out of him, and he constantly tried to make me feel guilty about it. I never did. Other than him and what happened to me when I was fifteen, I've thoroughly enjoyed pretty much all of my sexual experiences.
So long as this girl enjoys herself, does it the way
she wants to do it, and doesn't allow anyone to ever cause her to feel guilty and ashamed of how she went about it, I don't see the problem. Nobody is forcing the decision to do this on her, nor is she forcing the idea on anyone else. Anyone trying to force their morals on her... well, we all know morals are relative. Unless it's a moral issue that causes actual hurt to a person outside of herself, she should be left to do what she wishes to do with her own body.
It is her body after all.
No harm, no foul.