What Ethel said!
(Even though I haven't voted yet, and I don't know if I will - I just can't make a choice of which I'm really convinced.)
E* and Wilma, it's tough to write up against counter-arguments coming from all sides, and I know it feels like everybody is just refusing to see things your way, but in fact it's just that the majority has a different opinion. That doesn't mean that your opinion shouldn't be heard! But in a majority decision that also means your opinion can't be acted upon. I think everybody here did a great job in arguing for their personal point of view! LOL, my own views have been swaying with each well-argued post from either side.
(And you can of course still get more people to vote - let them know to come here and vote! Fifty or so votes is a good result, but we'd all be happy if a majority of our 150 or so active members voted!)
As I've said a few times in this thread, I think you are right to expect people to read only negative things where most people here read good and reasonable things. And that one word that the reader considers annoying ruins a whole post of reasonable argument.
Heck, it's happening to me all the time - I step on someone's toes with one word, and all the rest of my post that took an hour to write goes down the drain.
And I've spent hours typing stuff in the most careful, diplomatic, considerate way I could (although many will probably think that's not saying much
) trying to explain why I felt the way I felt back in December, firmly believing that "the other side" at one point would understand - and it's never happened! So of course I don't think reading these threads will make anyone see things our way who hasn't done so before.
BUT - I hope that people who read these threads will understand that the whole stuff dates from months ago and that it's possible to move on!
And maybe even more, namely that once the problems can be faced and there's no guessing and suspecting and rumours, we can eventually really leave that stuff behind.
I dunno - I guess I hope that when the skeleton is out of the closet, after the first shock you can at last bury it.