I like to use facts and some sort of historical record to provide solid under pinnings for any speculation I engage in. Perhaps that is why I have little appreciation for the gossip oriented type of discourse that attempts to pass for discussion surrounding pop culture celebrities and their lives. Sure, it is fun and passes the time but none of us has any substantive knowledge regarding the parenting skills of MJ.
Okay. Then WHY did you
first say
He had very little to do with actually being the father to them other than picking out the sperm donor and the mother. Other than some legal forms, are they really his children?
and then, when Alatar and I called you on it and pointed out that "being the father" had little to do with whose sperm it was, change that to
I was talking about MJ and the biology of fatherhood.
Now,
this time, you say:
none of us has any substantive knowledge regarding the parenting skills of MJ
but then go on to add
We do know much about his habits, character and eccentricities. Based on that knowledge, I would not have let a child anywhere near the man.
Which certainly makes sense, and MAY have been what you were trying to say in the beginning. However, your words and subsequent posts denied that and since you like to use facts and be very clear about what you are saying, we asked for clarification.
Which you now have finally given. You think Jackson must have been a less-than-stellar father, and are questioning if he was the "real" (ie: the caretaker) father to these three children, or if he just gave them his name and provided for them monetarily. However, you have also admitted that you don't know if what kind of father Jackson actually was and so
you don't know if he had "very little to do with actually being the father." In other words, you were
speculating without any real facts.
I can't imagine what kind of a father Jackson was, either. I can't imagine being the child of any high-profile celebrity - although he has been pretty much out of the public eye for the past few years. Jackson may have been very different in private than what he showed us as a public persona, too. And kids are remarkably resislient to things. Bottom line is, he kept them OUT of the public eye for the most part and they may have had a very loving, and caring upbringing. None of us can really know and we may never know.
But the fact that he may not have been the biological father has
absolutely nothing to do with his "being the real father." Because, as Alatar pointed out, that has little to do with the sperm and the egg. And you can be sure that these three kids considered him their one and only father...and that he was indeed "real" to them.