I must strongly agree, as the very nature will cause some people to feel uncomfortable, those who are here, who have been invited after the petition, or in the future those who haven't the slightest shimmer of an idea what the problem was in the first place.... I keep hearing... 'moving away from'.... 'evolving'.... and quite frankly as others have pointed out... this board - B77 - is its own. Why bring up what goes on in another board? (I realize many of us here still post on 'the OTHER' board, and so may happen to see things that disturb us when certain people write baiting thread.. but we have this board here, it is a good place, please don't let it break down because of baiting trollish posts on ANOTHER BOARD!- let them handle their own problems. Linking to them only add fuel to the fire that would most likely fizzle for the few that would really know what it is about anyway). Back to the point.... a forum for B & M, might get you just that.... and remember... where there's a lot of BM, usually it causes a stink, and someone ends up having to muck it out
Leoba wrote:
I don't think it's a good idea to have a specific forum where we can go to talk about TORC or TORCers in a disparaging fashion. It would seem to me that to do so would be an invitation to bitch. And that - unless I am very much mistaken - is not something we wish to see develop here any more that that which we've put behind us.
Leoba wrote:
Certainly, TORC may be an issue for some time to come, but one that I hope will lessen in time. If people are hurting they may need to share their feelings.
As I have stated before in Impy's Howdy thread... I had my own reasons for keeping away from all that was going on, petition, TORC problems, etc... I am sadden that some of the wonderful people I have gotten to know and meet personally through TORC have been hurt in all this. Might I add too, that yes, perhaps it is a 'tighter reigned' board- but all in all, there are some really super people there- where I had the privilege to meet you lot. You do need time to heal, and to talk about the hurts- can this be done in a way that is constructive and not destructive?- I think so, I think this board is proof positive of that, but bringing back in things that 'attempt' to bring you down is not constructive.
For example- what Leoba mentions here
and Leoba my dear.....
Leoba wrote:
The lesson we need to learn from the last day or so is that we don't do ourselves any favours by responding to trolling or by getting irate when said troll roars and spits a bit. We also don't do ourselves any favours by casting about comments such as "X is a bitch", when we could so much more eloquently say that we were hurt by something they said or that we felt they were way out of line.
Leoba wrote: I feel like such a nag for even pointing out our own code of conduct, but the key is 'respect for others'. Even if they don't always extend the same courtesy to us.
you are definitely NOT a nag, but a true gem. :mrgreen:
And Din- to you too, for taking on the tough job and the headache or as you mentioned in the other thread of Ethels- the pain in the derierre that it can cause at times. I just want to encourage you and the other Mod's- Griff and Eru for the good work you are doing on and for this board. As a missionary friend of ours once said ' It's a shit job. Somebody's gotta do it, it might as well be me'- (in this case... you three )
And Berhael (you snuck in a post whilst I was composing.... ):hug: just because, and hope you will feel better soon. Thanks again for what you wrote on TORC. Balance will come with time... hurt and grief always take time to heal.
(now hopefully my babbling point came out somewhat discernable- the things I wanted to say before, but perhaps that came out not entirely as I had intented because of how I was feeling at the time.... )