OK, I'm about to go all metaphysical on you guys!
There's an energy bond between you and every person that you love. You can visualize this as a glowing rope going from your chest to theirs, and distance doesn't matter. You are always connected, unless you deliberately cut that bond.
You've heard of when something tugs at your heartstrings? It's not just a turn of phrase, there are 'heartstrings' and they connect you to others and facilitate your emotional interactions.
The bond from mother to child is especially strong, and I suspect it had some evolutionary advantage as we evolved. You know, made it easier to keep track of a child's wellbeing.
In my case, being an Army officer, I did not allow those bonds to develop quickly enough. I was used to suppressing emotion, and being rather cold and heartless. I suspect that is why all my children had colic. They were being starved of the emotional energy they needed of me. As I relaxed after getting out of the Army, the bonds grew to their necessary strength, and the kids had my undivided attention up until teenager hood.
When my oldest daughter started rebelling, I had trouble letting loose my tight mother/daughter bond with her. A couple of years ago, as I started learning about those energy/emotional bonds I realized that part of what teenagers rebel against is the tightness of the bond. They need to become their own person, and can't with the constant heavy emotional interaction of that bond. I deliberately reduced the intensity and watchfulness of the bond between us, and we've been on good terms ever since.
Last year, when my son had a very bad ruptured appendix and spent 9 days in the hospital, I poured every ounce of healing strength into him that I could. He made it through, but the bond between us was quite a bit stronger than it should be for his age. I started to realize this half a year after his surgery, when he started having totally uncharacteristic flashes of temper, so I thinned out that bond, too, and he hasn't even HAD a rebellious phase.
I'm slowly reducing the intensity on my 14 y.o. daughter, and she's doing better now. She's going to be the most problem of all my children, being of a completely different personality type than the rest of us. A natural-born 'cheerleader' type!
I had the chance last summer to hold my newborn nephew who was crying and crying and his mother couldn't console him. I'd been thinking a lot about emotional energy, and asked to hold him. I knew his mother was kind of messed up emotionally, so I wanted to try something. She said she thought he was getting hungry, but sure, give it a try.
As I held that baby, I deliberately projected a feeling of "I love you, it's OK" emotion at him. I can't see auras, but believe in them, so I visualized my aura extending around him and giving him the protection and comfort he needed.
He fell right asleep. The grown ups were amazed. I didn't try to explain, because it would have freaked them out.
It's exactly what I should have done with my babies when they were new and colicy, but I didn't know how. Babies feel emotional energy, and need good forms of it. If one is all twisted up inside emotionally, it starves the child, and they cry in protest.
Now the freakiest evidence of emotional bonds I've ever seen involves my and my husband. We are SO bonded it produces some psychic phenomenon. We generally know who it is when the other calls, and once, right after I suffered an emotional shock at work, he literally called me and asked "What's wrong?"
After I read an article proving that couples feel each other's pain (Oh yes, there's MRI proof!
), I started noticing that I was picking up his aches and pains as well. One day, after feeling his shoulder ache all day long I was feeling grumpy and PMSing and just plain irritable. I thought to myself, "I'm sick of this! I don't want this! My aches and pains are enough, thank you!" So, I took out some imaginary scissors and CUT that bond between us- so I wouldn't get this constant backflow of his pain. Later that evening, he noticed a small wound in the middle of his chest. A tiny hole the size of a pin prick, he picked at the scab and then it wouldn't stop bleeding. We'd been picking blackberries earlier that day, so I thought he'd just pricked himself leaning over the bushes to get more berries. We put a styptic powder on it, and the blood welled and bubbled up through the powder. I got a bandaid for him and had him keep pressure on it and thought no more about it until the next day. He took the bandaid off, and the blood started dribbling again like it was a fresh wound.
This was exceedingly weird, from such a tiny hole, about the size of a skin pore. We did the styptic powder again, and a bandaid, and about that time I remembered about the cutting of the bond I'd done the day before. The books say this bond is located in the middle of your chest, right
where he was bleeding from!
Oh.
Doh!
I visualized the bond reforming, and he wasn't bothered by it again.
I guess my point is: those bonds are REAL, and have real, physical effects on the persons in question.