Iavas, people's right to grieve in their own way ends where it harms others, just like with anything anyone does.
I think Imp is right. The way a few people here (and on TORC) deal with their grief and hurt is like what you see in the Middle East or Northern Ireland. I fully understand the desire to throw stones - but it's not going to help anyone, you know. It'll just result in more hurt and perpetuate the suffering on all sides.
Who exactly are you comparing to terrorists and for what actions? I sure don't think
that comparison is going to help anyone either.
I'm comparing nobody to terrorists - if you think everybody who lives in the Middle East or Northern Ireland are terrorists, I think that's really sad for you.
I'm thinking of people who are hurt and angry and express that by throwing stones - and each time a stone hits someone else, someone is added to those who are angry and hurt enough to throw stones. It's a vicious circle.
I've felt myself that sometimes it feels good to throw a stone. That's why I can emphathise. It gives you a kind of satisfaction to do that. But I also know that one must fight that urge. No hurt gives anyone a right to hurt someone else.
It takes a lot of self-control to learn that. People in the Middle East and Northern Ireland are prime examples of not having learnt that yet - and of the consequences of that.
(And just in case, to prevent further confusion: this is an
image , an
analogy - I'm not accusing anyone of
actually throwing stones - the image is meant to illustrate the effects of being irreconcilable, of (to quote from Imp's post again) 'nursing grudges and lashing out' instead trying to seek peace.