I have often thought that Orthodox Judaism has an extremely elegant and well-thought out method of maintaining the status quo: elevating the role of the homemaker to be equal to that of the wage earner.
Well, yes, that's true enough. In fact, you might say that the Jewish woman's (traditional) role as a home-maker has higher status. The woman is seen as primarily responsible not just for physical well-being of children, but for their spiritual upbringing and education as well.
Keep in mind, too, that the Jewish woman was not barred from bread-winning, and she also retained the rights to her own property.
Just for fun, this is the excerpt from the Book of Proverbs, which every Jewish husband is supposed to sing to his wife on Shabbat.
A woman of worth - who can find one: for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband safely trusts in her and he shall have no lack of gain.
She will do him good and not evil, all the days of her life.
She seeks wool and flax and works willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchant ships, she brings her food from afar…
She examines a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard…
She sees that her merchandise is good: her candle does not go out at night.
She puts her hand to the staff of flax, while her palms hold the spindle.
She stretches her hand out to the poor, she reaches out her hand to the needy…
She makes garments and sells them, and brings clothes to the merchant…
She opens her mouth with wisdom and on her tongue is a Torah of lovingkindness.
Looks are deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord shall be praised…
Proverbs, 31
I highlighted the parts that speak of the woman's role as the manager of estate and bread-winner.
However. I think it was Aviva Cantor who wrote (or possibly quoted somebody) that patriarchy operates by defining a certain area as being of supreme importance, and then barring women from it. That could be bread-winning, fighting, or, as in case with Orthodox Judaism, studying and observing Jewish law.
I'd like to know how single childless women fare in Orthodox Jewish circles though
Good question. Theoretically, it is the man, not the woman, who has the obligation to marry. An unmarried man is considered an incomplete human being. Traditionally, unmarried men do not wear a tallit (prayer shawl) during services, or in some communities wear them but not cover their heads with them. Practically... I don't know.
Here's another bit of poetry written by a Sage of Jerusalem in the second century B.C.E
Where there is no wife, a man will wander about and groan…
Children or the building of a city perpetuate a man’s name,
But the irreproachable wife is counted better than both of them…
A friend and a comrade meet opportunely,
But a wife with her husband is better than both of them.
Ben Sira, 26,36,40
The notion of women during their menses being "unclean," for example, and the attendant regulations of staying away from then, not touching them, not even seeing them, comes to mind especially, but there are many others across the religious board
Again, there are different ways of looking at this. I am out of time, so I'll just throw a couple quotes at you before I run.
Bab. Talmud, Niddah 31b wrote: |
It was taught: R. Meir used to say: Why did the Torah ordain that a woman should be niddah for seven days? Because being in constant contact with her, he might develop a loathing towards her. The Torah, therefore, ordained: Let her be unclean for seven days in order that she shall be beloved by her husband as she was on the day of her marriage"
Norman Lamm, in A Hedge of Roses wrote: |
An analysis of the various species of tum'ah (ritual impurity)reveals that what they have in common is the awareness of death. The most potent source of impurity is, indeed, a corpse or a part thereof. The other kinds of tum'ah imply, indirectly, the suggestion of death, even if only the loss of potential life... A man who suffers from~ "running issue"... is impure. The issue is semen and therefore the loss of potential life; [...]. In the same manner, when a woman is niddah, during her menstruation, she loses an unfertilized ovum, and it is this loss of potential life, this whisper of death, that confers upon her the state of impurity...
There are also implications for fertility. Once the separation is over, the married couple is encouraged to have sexual relationship as often as possible. This cycle leads to the greatest possibility of conception for most couples, as they are joyously reunited at the exact time when the conception is most likely (Theoretically, at least. Fertility cycles are rarely that neat)
However. In the modern Orthodoxy, the other kinds of ritual impurity specified in Leviticus have fallen by wayside, and the only one that affects daily life is the law of niddah, so that only a woman is ever declared impure.
What we have, basically, is a commandment that affects women but that has been discussed and elaborated by men, over millennia.