Of course now I'm overweight and wish I could have that old body back. Though the reason why I'm not attractive really is because I don't believe myself to be. I just can't and probably never will. Really a lot of it does boil down to attitude. There are plenty of large women out there who think they're sexy as hell and guess what? They are. I just wish I could have that self confidence. I don't know where to get it from.
I'd say my goal size is a 14. A 12 would be stretching it. I'd be pretty thin for that. A 14 sounds huge, but for me it wouldn't be. I'm 5'11" and a mesomorph so there's no way in hell I'll ever be a size 4. My bones are too big! Right now I'm midway between 16 and 18....though honestly probably closer to 18.
Estel wrote: I may be trying to loose weight, but I don't want to be thin by any means It's so ironic - there's this commercial on TV with this chica saying "I've gone from a size 10 to a size 4 and I've never been happier about my body" I consider a size 4 to be to thin for myself. Some women are that skinny naturally - fast metabolism and all that. However, my goal is a size 10 - the size she was so happy about not being anymore
Quote: Eru - definitely a D cup, no bigger, and only that big at that time of the month. Otherwise I hover between a C and a D. Weirdest thing is, you remember I posted a little over a month ago that I had gone down to a size 14? Well, I was so happy with myself, that I decided to take a few days off from working out. That's resulted in only working out twice in the past month Cannot take breaks dammit! Anyway, I've gained all the weight back, but in a weird weird way. I'm down to a size 12-14 on my upper half, but I've gained a cup size and my lower half is up to a 16-18. I'm like a weird pear shape with tits
I wonder if you aren't really a bigger size. I saw an Oprah show that was all about how women wear bras that are too small for them. I'm wondering about myself now.
I've done the same thing as you....not exercized, though mine was related to mental issues. It sucks because I had lost fat off of my stomach and I gained it back. Also my legs are now bigger because I've put muscle on them but haven't lost fat there yet...that will be the last place. That's probably what's happened to you. The waist is where women can lose/add fat the quickest I believe. I'm also like you proportionally. My upper body has always been a smaller size than my lower body. Makes it hell to buy dresses!
Anyway,
As for my weight...I'm over 200 as well. Luckily I'm tall so it spreads out and I don't look so bad. According to the height and weight chart a woman of my height should weigh between 155-175. I'd be extremely lucky if I got down to 175. According to the chart I need to lose more than 30 pounds. I don't think I have that much fat! Plus as I get more fit I'll be building muscle which weighs more than fat. So I try not to become obsessed with the number but how my clothes fit.
As to what type of girl guys find attractive, I have a hard time believing they don't mind girls that have some meat on them. When they talk about curvy girls I think they're talking about the type of girl who will be on the cover of Maxim: huge boobs and tiny everywhere else. I NEVER see guys talking about how hot some normal sized girl is. I always see them gawking at the thin girl with huge boobs.
I always hate it when my guy friends comment on girls in front of me...especially when they're talking about how ugly a girl is...girls who look better than me. My self esteem plummets even further everytime.
Nin, you are NOT fat!!!! You're gorgeous and I wish I could wear a bathing suit and look good in it! You've even had two kids. You're doing great!
Sidonzo, I remember thinking when you had an avatar pic of yourself how pretty you are. You look so bright and happy. You exude cheerfulness.