I agree with Prim.
Agreeing with Prim is so enjoyable.
Fixer, I'm not a regular participant in ToE, but I did acquaint myself with the forum. It is a community within our larger community, where people talk frankly and very personally about sex-related topics. The reason it is closed to new members is because the personal nature of the conversation involves a greater than normal degree of vulnerability for the participants and thus requires a greater degree of trust between them.
It isn't like a closet we never open, it is like a special room in the house that new friends don't enter until they have become part of the family.