You have completely missed the point of the whole debate - making the ToE work - a living, breathing forum where sex is discussed openly with as great a feeling of openness, comfort and safety as can be achieved within the confines of B77. Your principles would destroy that forum.
I think you have completely missed the point of this messageboard. It seems to me you want ToE to remain the private club the board once was. If ToE can only be a living, breathing forum under the conditions that it violates the principles of the board, it will have to go!
If upkeeping the principles of the messageboard will destroy the forum, then that means the forum doesn't work here.
We don't know whether that's the case, though, and I for one am willing to run the risk and test it. If the forum is strong enough to persist, I'll be happy about that. If it's not - good riddance.
It seems to me that for you ToE is the most important part of this board.
I think it's not.
It also seems to me you are damn certain ToE will die if you don't get your wish.
I don't know what makes you so certain, I think it's not certain at all.
It's just what I've been saying since the beginning: ToE needs to learn to live with the new conditions. There will be new members in there, people who you've never heard of before. You have to learn to trust them. The only other way is to make ToE a closed club - and that is what we can't have here, so if you want that, you'll have to have your comfort and safety elsewhere .
But this is neither here nor there. Because after all, we are not talking about new members you've never heard of before and theoretical trust and mistrust in the future.
We are talking about Snowdog.
The fact that this whole kerfuffle is made for the sake of one person you dislike (and I'm not giving the least judgement here of whether this dislike is justified - I don't care if it is, this is about motivation) is reason enough for me to be opposed to this.
Taking wilma's example of being harassed at a convention. Does she need affadavits? Sworn statements? Independent witnesses? CCTV downloads? A police report? Which evidence would satisfy you? Obviously her word alone is not good enough for you. You demand proof.
And that is a sad state of affairs.
Her word is good enough for me.
It is a sad state of affairs that someone is not condemned without proof?
Wow, I sometimes wonder what kind of world you are living in.
Maybe one where you know everything and what you know is always right and true.
You trust people's word. (Except Snowdog's of course.) Very nice. So, what would happen if someone comes in some day who we don't know from a previous board, and someone raises an objection to them. Is it automatically the word of the person you've known for eight months that you trust over that of the person you've known for six months?
Or how do you determine that?
I would be happy with a safety measure that prevents people who have broken the rules in the way described in the article, if proof can be given that they have done so (either here or elsewhere).
But this is expected to be some kind of: "after we've made sure Snowdog doesn't get in we probably won't need it anymore because we trust everybody else" kind of rule, right?
How many times do we have to say that that isn't meant as a threat?
If the amendment does not pass I will delete my posts.
This is NOT meant as a threat.
Ok, so much the better!
Although, if that is the case, I don't understand why you keep repeating it.
Because, really, why should we care whether you delete your posts or not? They are your posts, you have the right to do with them whatever you want.
TH misunderstood my post (which doesn't surprise me).
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At the risk of misunderstanding you again: I find it harrassing that you keep pointing to your perceived wrongs by me at every opportunity. I don't understand why you do it, but I would like to ask you to stop it.