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Since coming back to the states, I've gained quite a bit of weight. There was only one other time in my life when I weighed more than I do now.

But on days like today - I look hot. Those aren't rolls - they're curves, and damn do I look good.


Tomorrow? I might be an emotional wreck over how I look. Never really know how I'm going to feel about myself on a day to day basis. When I m00t, I always feel good about myself, simply because I'm around people who know me for me, not my body, and base what they feel about me on that.

In other words, I always look hot at a m00t

:mrgreen: Este. Yes being around good people sure helps. i do get nervous when i have to go to clubs and such. just because i'm not that type and they seem to smell i'm not! they sure always ignore my presence

Right now i feel like utter crap myself got a strange feeling i can't explain but i do know i'm avoiding all mirrors today. all the things i dislike about me are hitting me harder on days like this. Having PMS sure doesn't help :mrgreen: <--- my mood swings the last two hours.

think i'll go crawl under a rock for the rest of the day.

Isn't this the thread where you compliment the woman?

Oh come on, i even bothered reading most of the complaints this morning, and I have met many of you people, and it is amazing what you all worry about

You ladies deserve compliments without naming everything some magazines make you insecure about


One thing I agree on though, if your in love, you take someone how she is, or how he is. Yet I think the appearence from your love is also something you fell in love with.

But it seems to be inbuilt in us, Maeg. *sad smile* I don't know why, but most women are insecure about their body image, and we have this amazing talent to find defects in ourselves. I don't understand it, but I know it's there. Someone you love telling you that you're beautiful helps, but the insecurity is deep-rooted, and doesn't stem from reading magazines (they reinforce the insecurities, though).

I can understand that, I am far from secure too, and I am not even a woman

But really it amazes me, i sometimes want to say "stand before the mirror and really look at yourself, if you see half of what i see it is still darn good". And that counts for so many in this thread. My love has the same insecurities, but I never tire of telling her the opposite

That's good, Maeg, it really is the way to help with a woman's insecurities.

Maeglin wrote:

One thing I agree on though, if your in love, you take someone how she is, or how he is. Yet I think the appearence from your love is also something you fell in love with.

well said

and yes i'll echoe what Ber said. it's not so much the image you see in magazines you want to look like. it's just the way you look at yourself.

Having someone who thinks you're beautiful is a wonderful thing... I'm not sure how I would have managed without him the last couple of years.

I actually feel pretty today. It's an unusual feeling, but certainly a very nice one.

LOL well, tbh and trust me i truly am, I had not seen pictures of all of you but many seem to have pictures of themselves here...and i was like whoa I am in good company


Btw just out of curiousity, do you ladies sometimes KNOW you look pretty, yet say your not, just to hear something nice?

*is about to reveal a huge female mystery* :mrgreen:

well not necessarily pretty. i do have days i can look in the mirror and think "yes i look nice today." but that's more to do with having a good day, nice clothes on and just feeling good.

i don't think i can ever say "man i look hot!" just not who i am.

Oh some days it's possibly to have a feeling really hot or gorgeous moment.:D Just as other days you can feel like the residue from the bottom of the chip pan. :bawl:

However I know if I was feeling fab I wouldn't be wasting time pretending I didn't, just to get compliments. I'd be wearing some of my tighter clothes and having a blast!

One wonders if, when women go out for the evening, the putting on of foundation, blusher, powder/bronzer, eye liner, mascara and lipstick (as well as carefully arranging the hair and putting on high-heeled shoes) - or a subset of these things, has something to do with it.

Women have been ingrained on a daily basis that they are not pretty au natural. Everything needs to be exaggerated and heightened.

Well maybe very cliche, but I prefer natural woman any time above someone who decorates herself like a christmas tree :mrgreen:

ofc "some"makeup, or eyeliner i dont mind. Just all that powder, rouge or whatnot isn't showing the real woman underneath it.

but you might be right Lidless, could be insecurity a lot. They dont say for nothing "I make myself pretty when going to the bathroom" :mrgreen:

Maeglin wrote:

Well maybe very cliche, but I prefer natural woman any time above someone who decorates herself like a christmas tree :mrgreen:

So you'd prefer a woman to have lots of body hair?

There's nothing wrong with women having hairy legs.

It's under-arm hair that freaks me out.


And I really never have understood the hiding under make-up thing. I can't stand putting it on my face, aside from a little concealer or mascara.

Whoa, wait wait wait.!!!!

I talked only about make up!!!

i guess i'm one of those make up girls i just won't leave the house without some stuff on.

i don't have or use half the stuff Lidless describes but i have some foundation and blusher. just depens on the time i have. usually just eyeliner and some lip balm(that's because my lips hurt during the winter ) but i know i won't leave the house without something on. (unless i'm on holiday )

Being an anti-make-up-activist (yeah, I use to blow up beauty stores and such...), I often tease and ask one of my friends about her make-up use. The last answer I got about why she was using make-up, was something like this:

"When I use make-up, I look more beautiful. Not because of the make-up, but because the make-up makes me feel good, and when I feel good, I look more beautiful."

But...

Ehm...


you blow things up??

Me? No, no. I just burn fur shops and - ahm...