Griff--
Low quality? Pah! I only swoon for high quality minds.
What you say about convincing someone YOU DIDN'T MEAN IT THAT WAY illustrates the importance of love itself in sustaining communication. This also recalls a point Anthriel made in her first post about the power of love to smooth over
apparent abuses of truth. A misinterpretation of meanings can hack at the very foundation of trust, and in time this can topple everything. But the simple "desire to forgive" that is a part of love can sometimes lead those in pain over an apparent breach of trust to make a leap of faith and affirm that it was just a misinterpretation, even if the face of doubt that seems very rational and sure from the subjective personal point of view. This leap of faith comes from love, I think, not trust, for this leap of faith is what is needed to repair the trust. And this faith is only the first step, an affirmation that communication is still needed. Then the actual communication to repair the breach and come to a new ground of shared meanings must take place, and this can be even harder than the leap of forgiveness born from love that is required to start the process. The best thing, of course, is to try not to let this confusing of meaning happen in the first place.
Love should not be taken for granted, I agree with that. From one perspective, no longer saying "I love you" or something similar can make it seem as if a state of mind has been reached in which love is taken for granted, like the sun rising, something that happens no matter what you do. But from another prespective, the act of saying "I love you" or something similar can make it seem as if a routine has been settled into, a routine that happens because it must, like the sun rising, and here again love seems taken for granted. Now both of these assessment can be shot down, and I don't really believe them for either scenario. My point is there really is no one correct answer here for everyone. The correct answer must be found by the two people in love
together.
Your point about high school is interesting. (Is it called high school is RSA too?) Those "love games" are probably less about power and more about the safety of being able to retreat from an intense situation by manipulating meanings. Yes, these initial games I am less inclined to be critical of.
The thing I love about that story about your brother is that POTATO CHIPS are featured prominently as a romantic gift. What's next, pork rinds?
So where did you go to be mushy,
Griff?
Anth--
Thanks for saying my pic is FAB.
The check is in the mail, by the way.
Yes, and you need to post a pic as well. Both
Griff and me demand it!