Anthy, as someone who's been victim to crime as well ...
Fortunately, I've only been burgled while not there - THREE TIMES, also once while I was in the house, but the intruder just snuck in, grabbed my cell phone, and made off. I strolled to fetch it some time later, and ... the cell phone was gone, the smell of a stranger hung there, and I saw the automatic garage door had stuck and the house was open to the street.
You can't know the chill, the terror, the sheer helpless fear ( and anger ), until you've been there.
I've also almost been hijacked at gunpoint ( I pulled away and they didn't shoot at me. I could have been dead a good four years now, instead of typing here ) and I've been harassed a few times by passersby on the street with nothing better to do than assert dominance over me because I'm 5 foot 7 of normally built woman, and THEY are men.
So, I get riled at people dismissing this kind of fear out of hand. If you are firmly in the bottom half of the world population in terms of sheer physical strength, there is always a brain cell or two in "small, furry critter" mode which KNOWS you are vulnerable to stronger predators.
By the way I happen to have five swords in my house, to address the relatively common kitchen knife / sword fantasy people have. And I have some wicked kitchen knifes. Three of those swords can kill, the other two are not sharpened. But really, do I have a chance against a man? I have ONE chance, because he is stronger. Unless I run him right through first time, which is not a skill I've been trained in, he can wrench that sword or knife from me easy and kill me with it, or perhaps just strangle me or break my neck. You don't just take a blade and chop someone in two. Again, you need POWER to do that. Try to stab a man wrestling you to the ground? No fucking way. He grabs your little female wrist in one paw and bend you backwards.
So what I'm saying is, expecting a woman to defend herself with a knife against even an unarmed man is unfair. The man already has the advantage because his physical strength is greater. A woman going with knife or baseball bat ( or cricket bat
) at an unarmed man still has the disadvantage, the lesser power. Sorry, but that is true.
I've almost been strangled once in my life. An argument with someone that didn't go well
I sometimes still get nightmares about that, and just thinking about now it I can feel those horribly strong hands around my throat again, and the panic of desperately trying to tear them away and not being strong enough. It is not a good feeling to realize you cannot save yourself, cannot do anything to prevent harm to yourself.
So no, unless you've been there you really can't hypothesize about the situation too much.
That is something men sometimes just don't understand.
*hugs Faramond REALLY tight for understanding* You rock, boyfriend!
I am still not saying I'm pro-gun, because I'm not. But I am anti "Just suck it up". That attitude goes nowhere. In a perfect world honest, law-abiding, innocents would not be butchered in their homes, but we don't have that now, do we? Yet we try through all kinds of "perfect world" laws to install perfect methods to deal with the consequences of what the world are, instead of addressing the true problems. Trying to patch over imperfection with faked perfection helps as much as papering over cracks ( which is another topic entirely!
)
As I stated before, must the choice to be able to protect oneself be given up because their are people who can't deal with the responsibility of owning a gun? I don't know, I really don't. But I tend to doubt it. While I would never want to own a gun, does that mean I must demand no-one else owns one either? Guns are a category by themselves but really, rage crimes happen with kitchen knifes, too. Will kitchen knifes be subject to law in 12 years? Once the guns are gone, rage crimes will get committed by other things. Ditto suicide.
Getting started about invaders and criminals being considered victims so often nowadays is just a whole OTHER can of worms getting me warm under the collar