As for the Torc threads, those are an important part of our history.
I agree 100%. They are part of
our history. Not "theirs". Having been away from the internet for basically three months, I realize how little the petition business and all the fighting that came afterwards affects me right now. I never even think of it when I post here. board77 is truly it's own site, and has been for a number of months.
My fear is of all the people who've been slagged off in the past, coming in and looking for those problem threads, resurrecting the old hurts, and B77 will never be able to fully grow because we'll keep having to deal with this circle of death. I don't want any of that TORC crap from way back when to be part of how things turn out on Sunday or forever after. I know how you're going to argue that, but I mean that the threads don't need to be out in such plain view. Getting attacked by a dog as a child naturally had it's mark on how I grew up, but I don't need to keep the scar around in such plain sight, forcing others to comment on it and continually bring it up every time they see it.
I want to keep those old threads for my own viewing pleasure (read through two of them tonight and was reminded of how much I love this place, the people on it, and the discussions we had back in those crazy days), but it is no goddamned business of anybody else's. Yes, this is thinking about the trouble-makers who might pop on by and we all know who they are. Some of them may join, some might not. There will be lots of good people who sign up, and I welcome them, but I still don't believe they need to see what went on back then. Unfortunately, I don't have time to save all of these threads nor beg the admins to help me delete stuff, but I can only beg that if the old threads get deleted, can someone save a copy of them first? I don't want to forget what went on, I just don't want it to be part of how B77 develops as a site from herein. I don't want to lose such a big chunk of my post count, but the things that were said need to be forgotten by those it'll end up hurting. It needs to be invisible for them.
I understand when people say they have nothing to hide, but that's assuming people are gonna come here with the best of intentions and read the old threads with nothing but a clear and understanding head on their shoulders. Not gonna happen! I have nothing to hide amongst
you people, whom I trust, respect, etc., but I'll be fucked if I'd share the same things with these other idiots, no matter how kick-ass I feel I made my points back then. These wolves are gonna come here, find what they need, fit it to whatever opinion they already had of us, and nothing we say can make a difference. We can only help them, not ourselves. I don't care about transparency - if they're only joining to dig up dirt, then who cares what they think, or how hard we need to try and impress them? That's all you're doing. Trying to impress people who don't intend to work with you in any way. I guess it's kinda noble, but in the end, it'll only hurt ya.
I believe in pretty much everything I said back then. Yes, shame on me for being embarrassed by some of it, but I can't help it since I always write with an audience in mind - change that audience, and you'll change how I feel about what I said. I wrote things here that I was not allowed to at Tolkien Online, and not really welcomed to write to those guys in private (the one time I remember doing that, the only replies I got were from Ethel and Squiddy, who were members here). Now I'm supposed to leave it all around for the people who didn't want to hear me in the first place to read it and make trouble? Sorry, but I do feel betrayed by that. I know it's all part of our history, but I didn't realize I was contributing to a future example. I stand by what I said, but that doesn't mean it's gonna matter to those who are going to read it. I said some mean things about people because I was so comfortable at b77 that I didn't want to keep anything in my head, but out in the open for YOU guys to read it. I see no need whatsoever for those people to be able to read that stuff about them. No matter how many good things I then went on to say about them, we all know they're going to focus on the bad.
Something else to think about:
Remember how all those non-petition posters joined in on the Lidless thread after he was banned? Or the IE thread, the one in the TOR forum, and anything that popped up after the February bannings? Remember how the mods' and admins' actions made these people finally see TORC for what it was (it's bad side, anyway)? How revealing those incidents were of their characters? Those weren't even folks with an agenda like we may have been, and certainly the TORC admins were. They just saw an attitude they didn't like and spoke up about it. Do you not think we're gonna get a taste of that as well? Anyone could just look up those threads and read just one damning post and consider all of us assholes. Even if we were at the time (and I'm not saying we were), that's not who we are now and I don't want to encourage problems like that.
Being open is fine, but we're also revealing our Achilles heel and pretending someone isn't gonna take advantage of it. Even if we got modern medecine and Achilles may have been saved these days, I bet he'd still prefer not having been shot. Me too!
I really appreciate how many of you have been saying (to Wilma, for example - I know she shared my concerns) how you've got her back and she probably has nothing to worry about. I agree that she probably has nothing to worry about, and I sure as hell got her back. But I also saw her get banned for no reason at all a few months ago, and I don't need to experience that twice to understand that some people are gonna find problems where there are none, and then they're going to make it
our problem. Even if a lot of that stuff is behind us at B77 now, I still notice that a lot of you won't be going to the Oxford moot, and it seems like I'll have twice as many plane tickets to go in debt for just to hang out with you guys. So obviously it is still an issue. Because of that, I don't wanna make it more of one by putting all my cards on the table. I never once understood why Jon and Ted were so pissy about not being able to see what we were saying over here, when they did the same with their secret mod forum. I don't care what they're saying in it, but I sure as hell don't wanna show them what
I'm saying in mine in some lame attempt to appear better than them. There's being trusting, and then there's being stupid. The stupid part comes in when you choose to trust someone you know you can't.
Really, anyone who joins and doesn't care about the petition-related business isn't gonna read those threads, so they become pointless, and anyone who does care about the petition-related business is gonna read as much as they can, and it's those people I don't care to accomodate. What'll happen is that however bad you think some relationships may be stressed right now - is gonna be a million times worse, and probably irrepairable. But even worse is that whenever someone new joins, they're going to go back and read it all, and if they can't reply to it, they're gonna start a new thread on it, and it'll all start all over again. If you open the boards with those threads around, you'll be doing more back-peddaling then forward motion.
I'm glad we're opening. I want to post again with brambleroseGamgee, and vynaca of mirkwood (who I promised I'd restart her invite thread on April 1st, but then y'all changed directions on me). But I know what our weak spot is and if you keep it around, it's gonna be a problem. It's like yeah, I'm naked under my clothes and everybody knows that, but I don't need to go around flashing people just to prove it. I'll be too exposed to people who would use that to hurt me. Any other analogy will do, but the point is that those threads need to be unavailable to everyone but us. Even the posts of mine I'm deleting, I'm saving on Word, cuz like you say: it's part of my history. I completely neglected my TORC adoption thread for a year, but when the hacker deleted all traces of it, it hurt like hell. I may not have made good use of it, but it's part of me and I wanted it to always be around for whenever I got back to it. The old board77 was amazing for what it was, but it's something different now and I want to move with that, but keep a private copy of what it used to be.
I've still got the whole thread to read, but that's my stance. Thanks for your time.
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